Love In Relationships — part 3

NaMO with his wife, Gozie
 
 
Now listen to this….
If you love someone because the person loves you back then I can tell you to read no further; You should be getting ready for a “change is constant” experience because if the person changes i.e. he/she doesn’t love you back or doesn’t love you back enough or does not love you the way you want it… you will change too!… You will prove the slogan right and actions relating to the my initial summary of long term relationships will surely set in… Love becomes a mirage in the relationship and a lot of other words not in this article becomes discussion points!Let’s look at the initial premise of the relationship this way: If you love someone because of who the person is to you (this speaks of personality, spirit and/or lifestyle) and not for what he/she has or will become (that’s outward or tangible)… then your steps in the relationship have become a matter of principle!That is, you love the person independent of the person… That is, you love the person even if he/she doesn’t love you back or doesn’t love you back enough or doesn’t know how or doesn’t want to love you back the same way… Then it’s a relationship that can’t change until the principle changes!!

We can conclude that in practice the principle above is what objectifies love in relationships. This as described in the latter scenario is “Agape”, the “unconditional love”, the “love that God is”, the “love Jesus has for the Church”. That my dear reader is the love God wants us to have… That demonstration is the “Love in Relationships” that avoids the feelings or “Change” and in turn the questions that follow.

Having said that… it will be futile for me to go the length of discussing the theory of Love as it should be in a relationship without furnishing a description of the answer to: How does one begin to see the personality, spirit, lifestyle of one’s partner, that is, to recognize his/her partner’s personality? And when to then fall in love with it? It is found in the attention and decision the person makes…. A fast way is when the Spirit of God reveals someone to u… In all these things I must tell u one thing…. I’m getting a whole lot from you in our relationship and I’m more than satisfied… I always worry that maybe u dont know u should be getting from me too… now i dont mean money… Relationships are based on what u give and get….”For God so loved the World that he GAVE…”… And believe me that is what will sustain that 50yrs relationship… Knowing what u are getting and that know one else can give it to you (I’m talking human being only) and Seeing for urself that its true in the person so that what ur getting wont run out or finish or change.Thats why people stick for a very long time because they know what they are gaining and that the person is happy giving it and won’t stop giving it!